Episode 17: 50 Shades of what?

I always find it interesting when people use a mainstream dating site trying to find someone who, ah, has specific requests in a partner.

Let's take Mr. Make It Hurt, for example.  His profile says he has a "naturally dominant personality" but can only think of spending his life with a "dominant girl" with a "very strong and controlling personality." Then there is some crap about feeling and acting like a queen, blah, blah, blah.

So, let me see if I understand you correctly, Mr. Make It Hurt.  You're the dominant one, but want to date the dominant one, but she has to be controlling?  So  you want your "girl" to boss you around and then you'll yell no because you're dominant too?  I don't understand.  I get the strong personalities thing.  I'm one of those women (read: not a girl).  I have a strong personality and I want my partner to be somewhat similar because I can easily and unintentionally be the assertive person in a relationship without meaning to.  That's why my Mr. Right will have a strong personality and we'll find a lovely balance together.

But if you're both super dominant, that is less healthy relationship and more you're both arrested for smacking each other in the street because you both want to sleep on the left side of the bed.  And what the hell is up with the controlling bit?  I have much better things to do in my life than tell you how to run yours.  Sounds like you want a mommy.  Or a dominatrix.  And there are specific sites just for those things.  We're not a match, Mr. Make It Hurt.  I'm sure you're broken hearted but no worries because I'll just tell you to buck up, move on, and never contact me again...I'm sure you'll love that.